One of the sweetest and most spiritual ways to shower a mom-to-be with affection before baby arrives is by having a mother’s blessing. Instead of having a traditional shower, a mother’s blessing is a ceremony that simply celebrates the mom-to-be as she adds the new role of mother into her life. A mother’s blessing is meant to inspire and encourage the expectant mom before she gives birth to baby.
Ceremonies are becoming more popular, because they are intentional spaces for people to connect with each other in new ways, and they are an opportunity to reconnect with ancient parts of ourselves that remember the simple power of gathering together in community. In a Mother's Blessing, it is connecting with the energies of feminine, masculine, birth, and community in an inclusive and nonjudgmental space.
Ceremonies are helpful for expression, awakenings, grounding, experiencing clarity, setting intentions, doing healing work, and inner-processing. Being in a sacred and intentional space helps individuals shift out of their everyday frame of mind, allowing participants to experience new insights and perspectives. Ceremonies can also be a wonderful place to connect with people in a safe and open-hearted environment.
How does Stephanie support as a facilitator of a Mother's blessing?
Stephanie facilitates mother's blessings by creating a sacred space for the blessing and facilitating the ceremony. Stephanie creates a flower crown for the mom-to-be and an altar or adorned space for the expected mother and her guests to gather. She will guide the group through various exercises and experiences based on the intentions of the event. Some examples of guided experiences are: opening prayer, intention setting, guided meditations and visualization, group sharing, sound journeys, aromatherapy foot bath and belly painting for mom-to-be. Then closing the ceremony, where thanks is given, and acknowledging what the group has created during that time. And finally, a shared meal to celebrate the blessing.
Stephanie is inclusive of ALL mother's, father's, and parents, including: mothers, fathers, parents-to-be using a surrogate, and parents who are adopting. Although this is called a Mother's blessing and terms like "mother", "mom-to-be", "she/her", "women", etc. are used in this content, this ceremony is appropriate for women, men, non binary, and any parents-to-be, alike.
What happens in a Mother's Blessing?
The focus is on supporting the mom-to-be and how her friends support mom. Gathering together to support a mom-to-be encourages connection, inspiration, peace, and inner restoration for the mom-to-be and her natural support system. A Mother's blessing is ceremonial and each guest contributes. Guests may be asked to bring three things: (1) a poem, song, prayer, or scripture about pregnancy, birth or motherhood; (2) a bead to symbolize fertility, birth or motherhood; and (3) fare for the shared meal.
The mom-to-be is the focus of the event. Once everyone has gathered, Stephanie facilitates an opening prayer followed by guests reading the passages they’ve brought. Beads are collected and strung together and are a reminder of all of the love and support she has moving forward. The mom-to-be will carry these beads with her on her motherhood journey so she can be reminded of and can feel the strength of her friends and family with her as she welcomes baby into the world.
Is a “blessing way” the same thing?
For the most part, yes. A mother’s blessing is an intimate party inspired by an ancient Navajo ceremony called a blessing way. The ceremony is held to prepare an expectant mother for her upcoming birth journey—to shower mom-to-be with love, support and encouragement. The act of birth is seen as a rite of passage for women, and this is meant to help a woman feel mentally, physically and emotionally ready to give birth. A mother’s blessing is a modern ceremony that can give moms-to-be a similar sense of support and honor as Navajo mothers-to-be have received in traditional blessing ways.
Why are women having these ceremonies?
Women who choose mother’s blessings want something more intimate than the typical baby shower, or something that doesn’t solely focus on baby. They want to feel more empowered about birth, especially if they’re preparing for a natural birth. It's also a way for new moms to feel supported in a different way by their community.
What about gifts?
Other than meaningful poems, passages and beads, there aren’t usually gifts at a mother’s blessing. Those who celebrate mother’s blessing ceremonies see the memories the gathering creates as the greatest gifts of all.
When should you have a mother’s blessing?
A mother’s blessing is typically held toward the end of pregnancy—around 35 to 38 weeks. Blessings can be held anytime after the 2nd trimester.
Who's invited to a mother's blessing?
About 10 to 20 of the mom-to-be’s closest friends and family are invited. This ceremony is meant to be 100% supportive of the mom-to-be. No frenimies or drama. Period.
How long is a mother's blessing?
It depends upon how many guests there are in attendance. A blessing can range from 90 minutes to 3 hours, depending on guests and timing. The natural flow is about 90 minutes. If there are more guests, activities, sharing, food, etc, things will naturally add time. As a facilitator, Stephanie honors the natural flow and energy of the room and will help the group stay focused on the intentions of the Mother's Blessing.
What can I share at a mother’s blessing?
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